Is money and anxiety ruining your marriage?
Being married can help reduce all sorts of illness for men, it has long been said that married men live longer than their unmarried counterparts. There have been enough studies on this for us to know it is true that marriage helps us deal with both physical and mental illness better.
Most couples will experience some financial ups and downs at some point in their relationship. That is perfectly normal, but what really matters is how you deal with them. As a couple you must communicate your feelings , even the negative ones, with each other or they will sit there and fester until they explode.
You know how much pressure your spouse can handle, in these times of financial difficulty you must be more aware than ever before of these pressures and how they are affecting your partner. A job loss in the family or ongoing medical bills can quickly cause financial difficulties in the best organized family.
A job loss, medical bills piling up and foreclosure looming can push the best of us towards panic and anxiety, as a married couple you should be willing to work together and face these financial problems and discuss the panic that can be caused by financial worries.
How will you know if the financial pressures are pushing your partner towards an anxiety attack? Well you should be able to notice changes in the way they behave around you and also the way they behave in the lead up to social situations and during the social situations themselves.
There is no shame to having feelings of anxiety and even panic, the only shame is if you know your partner is suffering and you don’t do anything to help them deal with it. When you work together you have a much better chance of dealing with the anxiety and the root cause of it earlier and with less pain than if you just ignore it and hope it goes away.
Anxiety attacks can be totally debilitating, they can also ruin the life of not just the person who suffers with them but their spouse as well. Since anxiety affects both of you to some degree, you should both be willing to go and discuss it with experts. You are not the first couple to be in this situation so don’t worry about being embarrassed.
When you wonder whether you should just let the anxiety attack take over and force you to pull even further back from your husband or wife, remember all the good and great times that you have had together. Anxiety can be beaten and so can money problems, you just need to decide to fight for the things you hold dear and get professional help.
